Online dating does not work ( my personal story )

Remember the movie “How to loose a guy in 10 days”??? Well, as a blogger I have a funny story related to this movie. I tried it and it back fired on me…BIG TIME!

I wanted to meet someone new, I wanted to fall in love again, I wanted to allow someone into my crazy normal life…Basically, I was ready to meet Mr. Right as I was tired of Misters Right Now! But I was 100% convinced that DATING WEB SITES DID NOT WORK, so I wanted to try it and report my feedback by blogging sbout it, hence the post: “ONLINE DATING DOES NOT WORK” ( so I thought! )

I do not go out “clubbing” or go to any “meat market bars”…I definitely can not endure another “I have a friend I want to introduce you to”….I have had it with all of that. So I decided to give the ONLINE DATING a try ( as a blogger I could once and for all prove that online dating does not work for everyone…Ha! ) I have been to weddings of couples that met online. My friend Sue met the man of her dreams on Match.com, Jen met and married Jerry on EHarmony and they now have two kids…But I was still not convinced!

I am too stubborn and was determined that this would never work for me. My friend Susan told me once that I was too Brazilian for an American and too American for a Brazilian… A harsh reality check, but she was right! Well, I still went for it and signed up on PLENTY OF FISH! There were some scary pictures and profiles out there I must say…. But after a couple of days, ( really 2 days only ) I saw a nice German guy’s profile that caught my attention. I went ahead and sent him a message: “Hi, nice profile”. For my amazement and amusement he replied! I almost felt off the couch as I could not believe it! Who knew??? There are real & live people at the other end of the screen…Shocking! Anyways, we started to exchange messages via the Plenty of Fish message board. After a week or so, he sent me his cell number and asked me for mine… So we started to texting and he eventually asked: How about meeting for a drink? I gasped! OMG! WHAT??? In person??? Holy cow, how would I handle meeting him in person? I said yes and we set up our first official date. As soon we had the place and time picked out I texted my BFF, Carol his full name, phone number, the company he worked for ( yes I called to double check ) where we would be meeting and what time….A girl can never be too cautious!

After the initial awkward 2 minutes, I became very interested in what he was saying, the questions he was asking and the laughs we were sharing rather than anything else… I had a really good time.

As we were walking out of the restaurant ( Season’s 52 ) I said:  “If we ever go out again, we should go for sushi!” ( sushi was one of the subjects that we talked about as we both love sushi! ). And he stopped walking and replied: “IF? We will not go out again only IF YOU don’t want to, I would love to see you again!” At that very moment I stopped and thought to myself: REALLY? ARE THERE ACTUALLY NORMAL PEOPLE OUT THERE DOING ONLINE DATING? And my second thought was: He is a rapist, a murderer and/or a serial killer…He does the online dating thing to attract girls and out of a sudden BAM!!!!!! He attacks!!!!!  So, I smiled and said ok, let’s set up another date soon. We said goodbye and I went our separate ways… ( I raced home making sure he was not following me…I am such a dork! )

We kept texting, we went out several times and we started to date. After 2 weeks we went “steady”. After the third week together we were girlfriend & boyfriend. After 3 months he asked me to move in….AND I DID as I was madly in love!

I thought that by “trying the online dating” I was going to prove a point that it does not work for everybody. Naturally, all girls should be cautious and careful with it as I am sure that there are some “not so nice” peeps out there as well.

We have been together for over 1 year now and I am still very much in love!

So, for all the skeptical single people out there: THE ONLINE DATING THINGY DOES WORK! The world has changed and evolved…We do everything online – shopping, banking, marketing, advertising, networking and socializing….why not dating???

XOXO

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Can not wait for my third act!

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I am not there quite yet, but really, I am happy about the fact that I am aging. As simple as that.

Back in 2011, Jane Fonda shared her prospective about ” Life’s third act”, as I age, the staircase seems to be more aparent and I keep on climbing, one stair, one smile and one day at the time. Since March 2014, life became so much more ejoyable, challenging and exciting that aging makes me happy.

All my teens insecurities are gone. My twenties challenges deleted. Finally my thirties having to prove myself completely vanished. However, my fourties confidence is here to stay. I have to share that I am lucky and blessed to have had a solid foundation, a fantastic upbringing and a family that allowed me to do and to be EVERYTHING that I ever wanted. No! I garante you I was not spoiled, I never had a bunch of money or material things that most of my friends had ( and I always wanted…. ). I had enough. Enough to make me realize that nothing comes easy in life.

The one thing that is more apparent and obvious, is my dislike to have a party, a dinner or any type of gathering to celebrate ” ME, ME, ME “. I enjoy my birthday, I just do not need an audience. Now, as I age, I am less narcissistic, less egocentric and a lot less self centered…. But I still like my birthday, I like my life and I like celebrating it everyday, not only on my birthday.

As my birthday approaches, and I am almost 45 years young, gratitude is the exact feeling that comes to mind, I might have another 45 to go, and if is anything like the past 45, I just can not wait!

Here is the link of the outstanding Jane Fonda TED talk from 2011…I hope you enjoy. XOXO

http://www.ted.com/talks/jane_fonda_life_s_third_act?language=en

PS: This post has not been edited by MF, my loyal and dear editor, so please forgive the spelling and/or grammar mistakes! 🙂

 

 

 

From the crib to the grave.

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Most people hate talking about it…..It is not my favorite subject either….However, one only needs to be alive in order to eventually die. I take it you are alive today, correct? I’m not asking if you are healthy, happy or if you have any plans not to be alive tomorrow…..The fact is that we will die, one day, we will all die. Sad, somber and perhaps terrifying, but true.

Recently, I had a career change, while taking classes to get my real estate license, I heard for the first time the term ESCHEAT….I was mortified and petrified when the instructor explained what it was and then I realized: I AM AN ESCHEAT!!! What does it mean? –  “The transfer of title of property or an estate to the state when an individual dies without a will and legal heirs.” – Investopidia.com.

OK, so you are not single, you have 12 kids and 34 grandkids…..Good for you and one more reason why you should read this post! Just like you, my entire life from the crib to the grave was, is and will be ( till the day I die ) filled with wonderful people, memories, laughter, fantastic trips, romances, excitement, challenges, blessings, sorrows, some regrets, more laughter, unforgettable moments and above all: PEOPLE. People that are part of our journey, friends and family are the pillars of our existence.

We do not know when our life will end….Unfortunately, some people might know ahead of time when battling horrible diseases, but some of us might be gone abruptly and unexpectedly. This is for anybody alive today. I am hoping you, me and everybody else can use it as a tool to make everything easier for our family and friends once we are gone. Who knows, this might give you a different prospective on life, perhaps by accepting the fact that one day we will all die this will inspire you to live and enjoy life now, today, at this very minute…. We do not know how much longer we have…..So let’s make the best out of it! Like my blogger friend Christina says: “Make someday happen”!

In September 2014, comedian Joan Rivers died shortly after a routine health procedure….. Some of her funeral wishes were read during the actual funeral as she had recently written a book and mentioned how she envisioned her funeral to be….. I am not sure if you are planning on writing a book or taping a message to be played during your own funeral… I certainly am not, and that is why I am writing about this. I would like to have everything organized and ready to make life easier for everyone that will be staying behind… ( yes, staying behind as everyone that stays will eventually be following us ).

One thing that I recommend is to have a list of important things in writing and printed – you may also want to have a sealed envelope with the name of your relative or person that you choose to handle you affairs. This envelop may also be left with your lawyer or will executor.

  • Will/Trust ( Naturally ) – Suze Orman has great samples on her site  – suzeorman and there other very resourceful site is called NOLO
  • A list of all personal financial information ( bank accounts, saving accounts, passwords, credit cards, key words, pins, etc… )
  • What do you want to do with the money on your accounts?
  • A list of all people that you would like to be notified of your passing ( physical address, email address and phone number )
  • All social media names, screen names and passwords
  • Make sure to specify if you want to be buried or cremated and what to do with your ashes afterwards.
  • Pictures of you for the service; which ones do you like and which ones….”not so much”. Make a quick selection and leave, along with a letter containing all the information with at least 2 people
  • Life insurance policy information.
  • Are you an organ donor? If not, are you willing to donate your organs?
  • What do you want to do with your house, car, pets, clothes, shoes, jewelry and personal belongings?
  • Do you want a Church/Temple/Synagogue/Mosque service? Or no service at all?
  • How about a gathering event afterwards? ( I have a friend that has already paid for hers in full. No, I am not making this up! )
  • Last wishes ( if you have any ).

Until then: enjoy your precious, amazing and hopefully very long life, have fun, live it up, laugh a lot and say I love you as often as you feel like! We do not know how much longer we have and it is a shame to miss an opportunity to make someone feel loved.

XOXO, Jules

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Let the New Year Roll In

Soul logo It never fails….. Right after Christmas, we start making a list of things that we want to change in our lives when January 1st rolls in. My question and my amazement comes from not understanding WHY we need to wait to begin on January 1st? Was October 14th not a good day? November 10th was not quite right? The hope we have is that on January 1st our motivation will magically kick in and it will transform our lives and habits; we will achieve that big goal; make that famous and useless list; and follow our new routine. Sarcastically speaking (in this case typing) I am including myself on all of that. However, that is not the worse part….. The worst part is when we start reviewing the year that is about to end…. Oh my! Then, in that exact moment, it hits us – The year was filled with adventures, challenges, achievements, deceptions, happiness, some regrets, lots of joy, and all the emotions and events that happens in daily life. It is so awesome to think about this past year and gracefully turn the page as there is no deleting. There are only two (2) words that we will be able to use when looking back: THANKS & SORRY. But there is no changing. We all want to do better, be better and feel better. This is called willpower, drive, motivation and the desire to accomplish, achieve and succeed. Invite the New Year to roll in, but let’s not raise our expectations to an unachievable height, it is gratitude that will change our feelings about the good things that happens in our lives. It is also gratitude that will make you think about the “not so good things” and understand that they could have been a lot worse. Let 2015 roll in; it is a blank canvas, an unwritten book, an invitation, an opportunity, a new chance and above all – It is filled with hope! So why wait till January 1st? Be happy NOW, change your habits NOW, start that project NOW. January 1st is only a day on the calendar…Happy New Year today! XOXO, Jules